Showing posts with label Jeff Chiow. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jeff Chiow. Show all posts

Thursday, December 27, 2018

Bob Malm’s Claims That Grace is Threatened by Domestic Terrorism: Harmful to Children?

The Washington Post recently ran an article that was syndicated nationwide, “How many American children have hidden from gun violence?” The article examined the prevalence of lockdown drills, used to prepare students and staff for a possible active shooter, and the pyschological effect these drills have on children. The conclusion: Such drills, while perhaps necessary, can be profoundly traumatic to children.




That begs the question: As Grace church, aka St. Dysfunction, transitions to Fortress Grace, replete with “single-button emergency transmitters at the ready” during divine worship, rekeyed locks on exterior doors, additional outdoor floodlights and interior security measures, and new fencing, what is the effect on children, especially at Grace Episcopal School? Given Bob Malm’s efforts to stoke fears and manipulate perceptions, this is a legitimate question. My belief is that Bob Malm has deliberately caused stress and anxiety to staff, students, and parents as part of his efforts to get the upper hand in our dispute. If accurate, that conclusion reinforces the notion that Bob is a priest in name only, and has lost all sense of ethical boundaries.

Lest anyone minimize the potential effect on students at Grace Episcopal School, one need only look to Lisa Medley’s claims, posted on The Wartburg Watch, in which she claimed that parents have requested armed guards at the school. Leaving aside the fact that very few armed guards have training adequate to deal with an active shooter, and the fact that the last thing first responders need when confronted with an active shooter is to deal with multiple armed individuals, Lisa’s claim illustrates the damage caused by Dysfunctional Bob’s manipulative behavior.


Of course, I’m not a psychologist, nor do I have any way to assess the damage that may be caused by Bob’s fictional claims. But my gut instinct tells me that the harm is not inconsequential. If nothing else, Bob’s manipulation and dishonesty, and lack of ethics in this matter, sets a poor example for children who may be inclined to look up to a member of the clergy, no matter how unjustified it may be to regard Dysfunctional Bob in any sort of positive light.

There’s another wrinkle in all of this, which is the lack of common sense evinced by Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow. By virtue of his inflammatory rhetoric, now part of the public record, Jeff improperly sought to influence the judicial process, without any regard for the effect his dialogue would have when it inevitably went public. And even if his efforts to obtain a settlement that included a confidentiality clause had succeeded, this was a half-baked, foolish approach at best, for court pleadings are a matter of public record unless sealed; the latter is quite difficult to obtain. Thus, Sugarland’s references to “online rantings and ravings,” “domestic terrorism,” and more are all now in the public domain. As a result, generations from now people will be able to see these documents, and marvel that a member of the clergy thought that this sort of dialogue was appropriate.

But then, we’re talking about Dysfunctional Bob and a diocese that to this day declines to provide Bob with adult supervision, so no surprises there.


Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Grace Episcopal: Photos of Thanksgivings Past

In yet another sign that St. Dysfunction, aka Grace Episcopal Alexandria, is coming unraveled thanks to Bob Malm’s weird claims of being threatened by “domestic terrorism,” the church has announced that there will be no Thanksgiving meal this year. Dinner at the church, for anyone who wanted to come, was a tradition Mike and I started and for which we paid all basic expenses. Sadly, the tradition survived our departure by only a few years.

Here are some photos.




















Saturday, November 17, 2018

The “Go Kill Yourself” Crowd at St. Dysfunction Returns to the Fray

Following the recent coverage in The Wartburg Watch of Bob Malm’s vendetta against me, the liars and bullies of Grace Church again have felt the need to enter the fray.

Attached are screen caps of comments from a parishioner at Grace Episcopal in which, like the clueless resident of Sugarland she is, someone (most likely Lisa Medley), tries to defend Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal by:
  1. Lying about my experiences with the church.
  2. Trying to trash Wartburg Watch editor Dee Parsons whom, if one knows Dee at all, one knows she is entirely honest.
  3. Trying the whole delay, deny, deflect routine a la Facebook.
In addition, I’ve attached a screen cap of a post by John Cunningham demonstrating that the poster lies; John also left Grace Church due to bullying, yet the poster claims that no one else has had this experience.

Gotta love a church that tries to lie its way out of accountability, as well as a parishioner who doesn’t even have the integrity to use her own name in her posts.

It’s also noteworthy that, even as St. Dysfunction continues to lurch towards insolvency, idiots like this poster still have learned nothing. They continue to think that if they just do enough to discredit others, or find something to say that’s sufficiently harsh, everything will be good and they can go about their merry ways. But the reality is that it is this very conduct that is causing the church to unravel — and Bob Malm is powerless to fix it, because it is the conduct that he models that empowers people to think that this sort of interaction is acceptable.

It’s BS like this that is the reason that two-thirds of persons under age 30 have nothing to do with organized religion, and one-third actively oppose organized religion. It’s because people recognize that the world would be a better place without this sort of hypocrisy.










Monday, October 29, 2018

Check it Out: Medical Doctor Comments After Seeing Bob Malm’s Written Claims of “Domestic Terrorism”

Attached are screen caps of comments a physician made after reviewing Bob Malm’s written comments in which he accuses me of being a “domestic terrorist.” Note that I express no opinion about her remarks, nor whether they apply to Bob Malm.






Sunday, October 21, 2018

Dear Grace Church: Bob Malm Played You

In Bob Malm’s long-running vendetta against me, there’s a dirty little secret lurking right behind the scenes. 

The secret? It’s that Bob Malm played his own church. That’s right, folks, he threw you under the bus.

Here’s what you don’t know.

Late in 2017, it was Lindsey Malm who called the police. That’s right—Bob was not the culprit. 

Lindsey called because she didn’t like a post critical of Bob on Fairfax Underground. 

Alexandria police followed up, telling her that they couldn’t do anything unless there were threats.  That’s when Bob joined in the fray, with his weird muttering about protesting “making good on threats already made,” his comments and innuendo about me being unbalanced, and his taking random words out of context from my mom’s blog—one that very few people even knew existed prior to that time.

True to form, Bob quickly made the rounds, bouncing from the vestry, to the school, to the diocese. As he’s wont to do, Bishop Shannon didn’t have the common sense to put the brakes on Bob’s antics, and next thing you know Bob’s carrying on about single-button wireless panic buttons, active shooters, and topics he didn’t even know existed a year earlier. (Bob historically hasn’t even bothered to carry his wireless key fob for the alarm system, which itself has a single button panic feature.) Nor was Bob limited in his shuttle diplomacy; he even pulled the gullible and easily manipulated Leslie Steffensen into the mix, despite the fact she had long ago wandered off to an administrative job at the National Cathedral. And folks like Kemp Williams were quick to weigh in, even though he didn’t even know about Mom’s blog until Bob started his machinations.

As part of his efforts, Bob pulled Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow into things, even getting him to violate ethics provisions that prevent attornies from initiating or maintaining a frivolous cause of action. Why do I say that? Because while Jeff’s performance in this matter was amateur hour, at best, I am pretty sure that he realizes that random words, taken out of context, do not a threat make. And again, Jeff Chiow repeatedly lied in his pleadings.

When the case went to discovery, Bob Malm had no compunction against lying in his written responses to interrogatories, falsely claiming that only his wife Leslie had blogged about the matter, despite knowing full well that not only had Lindsey done so, but that she was the person behind the entire debacle. And being a “close” family, it’s a safe bet that Leslie and Lindsey both were in the know from the get-go.

Of course, in so doing, Bob turned a private kerfuffle into a churchwide issue, and in so doing placed Grace Church’s reputation on the line.

As things played out, Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow increasingly lost sight of his own ethical boundaries, inserting multiple fabrications into his pleadings, and even trying to drag a dying woman into court. Behind the scenes, this caused tremendous consternation in certain circles, with Fanny Belanger resigning soon after Sugarland’s abortive attempt to subpoena my mother. (The latter, by the way, is not permitted under relevant law.)

Now, Bob is in a trap of his own making, but true to form, he’s trying to make the whole debacle the church’s problem, even going so far as to bring the matter up at during a recent vestry meeting. Yes, on some level, the issue is the vestry’s concern, as it has served as a rubber stamp and allowed Bob repeatedly to abuse his authority as rector. At the same time, however, the vendetta ultimately was Bob’s doing, and it’s now his mess to clean up.

In that respect, Bob has a problem on his hands. By law, he and I cannot have any communication, and I have previously told him in writing that he is to have no further communication with me, either directly or through third parties. Should he choose to violate this request, Virginia law will treat his contact as a prima facie case of criminal stalking per Va. Code § 18.2, and he can be sure I will pursue criminal charges in record time. 

Nor do I wish to be contacted by any member or representative of Grace Church or the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, including employees, agents, or vestry members. Through his actions, including Jeff Chiow’s inflammatory pleadings, Dysfunctional Bob has shut down all communication, and that is how things will remain.

Nor would Bob be wise to attempt further litigation. There is ample evidence of defamation per se from Leslie and Lindsey Malm, and I am fully prepared both to pursue them individually, and to seek punitive damages.

The bottom line: Grace Church, you’ve been played. Bob ignored your best interests as he pursued his own agenda — one that involves a vile, vicious, vindictive personal vendetta.

So, lots more protesting, blogging, and media coverage to come, and it’s a safe bet Grace Church will be much smaller when all is said and done — if it survives at all.

Were I Bob’s attorney, at this point I’d suggest cutting his losses, retiring to Georgia, and hoping that some future rector, if there is one, can clean up his mess. 

Oh, and an apology to the parish for dragging it and its members into his Machiavellian fun and games would not be inappropriate. But don’t hold your breath—Bob appears incapable of actually taking responsibility for his actions. The best he can manage is some well-crafted acting that sounds sincere, but in reality is anything but.

Sunday, October 14, 2018

Grace Episcopal Church Pleads for Additional Funds as it Faces a Financial Crisis Caused by Poor Planning, Bad Behavior by the Church

Following its decision to try to silence critics by falsely claiming that the church was threatened by, in the words of attorney Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow, “domestic terrorism,” and its decision to try to drag a woman dying of COPD into court, Grace Episcopal Church is facing a growing budget deficit.

On the giving side, year-to-date income is down by approximately $50,000. Compounding that are the soaring costs of HVAC repairs, which, as I have posted previously, were entirely expected, but glossed over during the formulation of this year’s budget. In other words, the church budgeted too little money for these repairs, even though they were entirely foreseeable given the age of the physical plant, the extent of deferred capital investment, and the sorry state of major HVAC components.

As a result of these bad decisions, depending on how the church manages its Q4 expenditures, and how much revenue it pulls in, the deficit could easily surge beyond 10 percent of the annual budget.

Moreover, next year looks to be even worse. Not only will medical insurance premiums increase sharply, but the increasing average age of parishioners, the influence of natural attrition, the quickening pace of inflation, and the inability of parishioners to increase giving to offset the loss of further pledging units spells a perfect storm.

Additionally, the lasting reputational harm of the church’s decision, made at Bob Malm’s urging, to “discipline” me (his choice of diction) as a former member by filing a civil complaint against me claiming that various words, taken out of context, somehow consititute a threat, together with Bob Malm’s smear campaign against me, have greatly damaged the church’s reputation. For the first time, parishioners and members of the community alike can see in writing the sorts of things Bob Malm says about parishioners, and they are neither Christ-like, nor pastoral. Nor does this sort of tomfoolery reassure people about the church’s organizational or collective good judgment.

Meanwhile, Bob’s flying monkeys over on Fairfax Underground continue their efforts to prove just how toxic the church really is with their ad hominem attacks, untruthful statements and defamatory statements. And the emails between Grace parishioners and Bob Malm about me show just how ugly the behind-the-scenes discourse really is in this sad, dysfunctional church.

In short, Grace Episcopal aka St. Dysfunction is fast approaching a meltdown, and things are only going to get worse. In fact, my prediction is that, with members of the community increasingly aware of the church’s claim that it is a terrorist target, there will be a major decrease in attendance and giving during the Christmas holidays. After all, with Bob Malm invoking fictional church shootings in the fictional town of Sugarland Texas in his legal documents, my bet is people are wary on multiple fronts.





See for Yourself: Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow Doesn’t Know What Terrorism Is

Amidst the overheated, inflammatory rhetoric coming out of Grace Episcopal aka St. Dysfunction, one of the amusing and notable things is that Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow doesn’t know what the word “terrorism” means. Interesting for someone who allegedly has served in the US Marine Corps and an example of Sugarland’s apparent indifference to the facts behind his legal pleadings. Of course, this also touches on Bob Malm’s credibility, since the relevant legal pleading was made on Bob’s behalf.

To be fair, definitions vary, but it is almost universally accepted that terrorism must contain a political motivation.

This notion is reflected in the US Patriot Act, which appears to be the most recent legislative definition set forth by the government.

Meanwhile, Big Daddy Sugarland’s assertions that Grace Episcopal is threatened by “domestic terrorism” will soon have been seen more than 100,000 times by social media users in the DMV region. No doubt Del Ray residents, neighbors, potential church members, and parents and family members of GES students find Sugarland’s claims most reassuring. Indeed, one imagines that area bankers will think carefully before lending money to a church whose attorney claims it is the subject of an ongoing terrorism threat.

(Screen cap source: Wikipedia)




Wednesday, October 10, 2018

“Trust Arrives Slowly, On Foot, But Leaves on Horseback”

During the recent Catholic synod to address abuse in the church, one of the participants made a particularly insightful remark, “Trust arrives slowly, on foot, but leaves quickly, on horseback.” That, and several other comments made during the meeting, are relevant to my conflict with Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal Church.

To be clear, the Catholic synod is meeting to address sexual abuse; there is no allegation that Bob Malm has engaged in sexual misconduct.

That said, abuse exists across a wide spectrum, ranging from emotional abuse, to relational abuse, to abuse of power. Spiritual abuse encompasses all of these, and other types of abuse as well.

In Bob’s case, his misuse of authority, including his efforts to include Mike and Mom in his vendetta, have destroyed trust on multiple fronts. And, having left on a horse in 2015, Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s efforts to flog that horse via accusations of “domestic terrorism” and other inflammatory rhetoric both reflect a lack of understanding of church dynamics, and of the Christian faith.  

The larger point in all of this is encompassed by another comment coming out of the Synod, which is that the abuse crisis “undermines the church in practically every way.” That is true for every type of abuse, including Bob Malm’s spiritual abuse. At every level, Bob and Sugarland Chiow have eroded trust in the church and its moral authority. Even total strangers are shocked and appalled at their efforts, for example, to drag a dying woman into court in violation of Pennsylvania law.

Nor will the damage be quickly resolved. Having spent considerable time and effort over the past three years in trying to get the upper hand in our conflict, Bob and Jeff have underscored their real motivation, which is power and control, not faith. That is an issue that cannot be resolved through a settlement agreement. Indeed, Jeff’s proposed settlement agreement, which contains a non-disclosure clause, would actually have exacerbated things, for conflict cannot be resolved by simply sweeping it under the rug and offering an, “agreed-upon statement.” Such an approach simply drives conflict underground, where it can fester for years afterwards, only to explode back to life unexpectedly.

Of course, the situation also underscores the serious issues that exist with Bishop Shannon and the Diocese of Virginia. Had someone pulled Bob aside long ago and pointed out that things like lying in court aren’t exactly helpful to the church, much of the damage would have been prevented. But having failed to provide adult supervision, Bishop Shannon leaves for others a hot mess. 

It’s interesting too: The Diocese has been consistently flatfooted in its handling of such situations. For example, when issues emerged at St. Thomas’ McLean, the Diocese was supremely indifferent to the effect on the parish and its people. True, the new rector is an excellent choice, but the damage is already done. (If nothing else, don’t announce the news as a surprise at Divine Worship. #clueless)

Can things be resolved going forward? Hard to say. Mom is fast running out of time, and with no one in my family now considering themselves to be Christian, there would be difficulty finding a shared reference point. Indeed, Mike is rabidly anti-Christian, and I want no parts of any faith that thinks trying to drag a dying woman into court is okay, or refers to those who criticize it as “terrorists.”

In short, when the seemingly inevitable day comes when St. Dysfunction aka Grace Church closes its doors, my feeling is that the world will be a better place. Yes, the food pantry, brown bag lunches and other services the church provides are important, but there’s no need to spend $1 million a year to surround these activities with a bunch of liturgical hoo-ha, especially when roughly 20 percent goes to pay for a “professional Christian,” or rector, who appears to have, at best, nominal religious beliefs. Moreover, Grace Church’s closing will end a bastion of organized bullying and control that is typified by Bob’s lying in court, and his trying to subpoena a dying woman.

Good riddance to bad rubbish. Don’t let the karmic door hit you on the butt on the way out, Grace Church.

Monday, October 8, 2018

See for Yourself: Grace Episcopal’s Claim to be Threatened by “Domestic Terrorists” Seen Almost 60,000 Times

Given Episcopal church attorney Jeff Chiow’s very serious courtroom assertions, members of the church, neighbors, and students at the school have a right to know about his claims, made in publicly available court filings. This document was filed in the Venango County PA Court of Common Pleas.

Consider: Either Jeff’s assertions are truthful, in which case one must consider the relevant safety issues, or his claims are untruthful, in which case one must evaluate whether one wants to support a church and school that engages in unethical conduct.

Meanwhile, placements of this content continue throughout DC and Virginia.






Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Coming Soon: New Signage

In light of Bob Malm’s references to me and Mom as “domestic terrorists” in his court filings, including his Motion for Reconsideration filed with the Venango County Court of Common Pleas, I have decided to add additional signage for my protests. The new signage should be here in the next week or so.

Check it out!




Wednesday, September 26, 2018

Breaking News: Judge Grants Dismissal, Allow Liars Bob Malm and Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow to Brief Court on Possible Attorneys Fees

In motions court today, the Circuit Court judge granted my request for dismissal. In addition, the Court allowed Bob Malm and Jeff Chiow to brief the court on possible attorney fees related to a family email account hosted in Canada pertaining to emails from 2015, which Jeff asserts were actually mine. The Court said it would entertain the plaintiff’s brief, despite the multiple lies Bob Malm and Jeff Chiow told the court, including that:
  1. I was never admitted to practice law.
  2. I never served as a police officer.
  3. That I have, to use Jeff’s words, repeatedly “threatened and terrorized” Bob by blogging about him.
Of course, in the meantime Jeff and Bob continue their efforts to deceive the court by taking statements out of context and refusing to specify how Bob allegedly was threatened, even after the court ordered them to do so.

Additionally, Bob Malm’s discovery responses include multiple falsehoods, including the claim that only Leslie Malm has blogged about the issue.

It also should be noted that Jeff has provided his legal services on a pro bono basis.

My take: This is yet another layer of documentation that Grace Episcopal Church is toxic, morally bankrupt, and utterly hypocritical. The lying Episcopal priest and his attorney want to try for attorney’s fees on the grounds that they think I lied, despite the repeated lies on their parts. Nice.

Apropos Bob’s claim that he was threatened, below is a copy of his proposed settlement, which I rejected. Obviously, very little if anything has to do with Bob’s claim of being threatened.











Sunday, September 23, 2018

This Week

Assuming Jeff Chiow hasn’t yet again bollixed his filings, Wednesday will mark the most recent and possibly final effort by Jeff to bully his way to victory in the courts. Specifically, the court will hear arguments over whether to grant my decision to dismiss.

True to form, someone closely connected to Bob Malm has been on Fairfax Underground, prattling on about how the court won’t grant my request, yada, yada yada. Obviously, confidentiality is an issue for the church, especially when you have someone foolishly speculating in public like that. Of course, Jeff continues his efforts to deceive the court by claiming that it somehow is illegal for me to write about my experiences. Par for the course. What else would you expect from Grace Church and Bob Malm?

In the meantime, I am making plans to continue protesting, writing, and telling others about my experiences at Grace Church. These efforts will continue for so long as the protective order is in place, and possibly indefinitely. Of one thing I am certain: Jeff Chiow should not send over any more settlement proposals. Given the various lies, the inflammatory rhetoric and the bad faith shown in discovery (Bob still refuses to specify exactly how he was “threatened,”) there is zero chance that I will agree to anything. Or, to use Bob Malm’s expletive in a slightly different context, “Why should I give a f***?” 

I’ve also been busy behind the scenes preparing for further media coverage, which will be coming in early November. Stay tuned.

Meanwhile, the defamatory stuff continues from members of Bob’s family, including the false bit about self-dealing with vendors while serving as junior warden. That should be interesting—whether I bring suit or not, or someone else files suit, falsehoods like that, coming from someone close to Bob (and most likely one of his daughters) are a powerful disincentive to other volunteers, and yet another sign that the church is experiencing an ongoing organizational meltdown.

My hope is to get out to see Mom again before the winter flu season hits. No one, herself included, thought she’d still be here now. That said, even a mild cold or flu likely would be deadly, so I am hoping to make the trip.

I am considering fully retiring in the coming months—it just depends on a variety of factors. Paradoxically, I have even toyed with the idea of going back to practicing law, maybe on behalf of victims of church abuse. Heaven knows there’s plenty of work to go around. If I do fully retire, I may find some sort of volunteer work that is meaningful. If nothing else, there is a church near me that needs a ton of repairs....that might be something to keep me busy for a few years.

More to come!




Friday, September 21, 2018

Breaking News: Brief in Opposition to Plaintiff’s “Emergency” Motion Filed

Earlier today, through counsel, I filed the attached motion which, inter alia, flagged plaintiff Bob Malm’s various lies in his motion to the Alexandria Circuit Court opposing dismissal of my appeal, including:
  1. His claim that I have violated the protective order.
  2. His claim that I was not admitted to practice law.
  3. His claim that I was not a police officer.
The fact that Bob Malm considers these falsehoods to be acceptable in any context tells you that Bob is not, as one person has stated, a “real priest.” In other words, if this is his idea of appropriate behavior for a Christian, let alone a member of the clergy, Bob can keep his brand of Christianity, his faith, his church, and his denomination. No thanks. And no thanks to any church that thinks this conduct is acceptable. It is not.

In my motion, counsel also evaluated Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s questionable claim to have expended almost $100,000 worth of legal fees in his pro bono representation of Dysfunctional Bob, noting several salient facts:
  1. Seven months after the appeal and five months after the cutoff for discovery, and several weeks after being ordered by the court to do so, Bob Malm has still failed to provide the exact blog entries that he claims “frightened” and “alarmed” him. (My take: If Bob really believes he’s been threatened, it should be a small matter to point out the specifics.)
  2. Working with attorneys at Holland and Knight, Jeff claims to have prepared a privilege log during discovery, but failed to produce the log, while improperly redacting and withholding a number of documents. (My take: Something smells very sketch.)
  3. Attorneys at Rogers, Joseph O’Donnell PC “RJO” claim to have spent two hours per page drafting basic legal pleadings. (My take: I hope to the almighty the firm is more efficient with other clients.)
  4. RJO billing is in five-hour block increments (My take: Sure hope it doesn’t bill all its clients this way. And if you are a client and you are agreeing to be billed in this manner, you are a fool of the first order.)
  5. Jeff redacted the identity of various attorneys working on the case, without authority or reason. (My take: Sketch alert!)
  6. The one consistent theme in all of this is Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s animosity, described by Mom’s litigation attorney as a “personal vendetta.” (My take: They will know we are Christians by our love.)
  7. At one point, it took an associate with Jeff’s firm an alleged 2.3 hours to fill out a simple, one-page form in PDF and prepare a one-page cover letter. (My take: Wowza. That is beyond unbelievable.)
  8. Plaintiff has gotten the very result he claims he desired. That begs the question: Why would he now argue that the case should continue? (My take: Mega sketch alert. His real reason is he wants to suppress criticism, which isn’t going to happen, even with Jeff’s lies and misrepresentations). It’s called the First Amendment, kids.) So, as things move to a close in the courtroom, I am more than happy to give Bob the protective order he requested, including the blogging, commentary, and media coverage warranted by such a stupid and un-Christian approach to conflict resolution. 




































Thursday, September 20, 2018

See for Yourself: Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow and Dysfunctional Bob Continue Efforts to Prove Grace is Toxic

So, it turns out that Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow and Dysfunctional Bob, in their efforts to discredit me, obtained information regarding a family email account, hosted in British Columbia, via an action in the latter jurisdiction. Horror of horrors, it has my billing information on it.

Unfortunately for the St. Dysfunction crowd, the email is one of more than a dozen that bills to one of my credit cards. And with no emails or IP address information available for the time period in question it proves merely that, yes, it has my billing information. And since Jeff never asked during discovery who pays for the account, I hate to break it to him: It’s not just irrelevant due to being more than 3 years old, it’s irrelevant period.

Nor does this address the fact that Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow and Dysfunctional Bob lied in their prior motion to the court. No matter how you parse it, they lied in multiple ways, including
  1. Claiming that I have violated the protective order.
  2. Claiming that I never served as a police officer.
  3. Claiming that I was not admitted to practice law.
Thus, if Jeff is going to go for sanctions, he should be congnizant that he is the attorney who lied to the court in his own motion. Guess Bob’s whole “Jesus is truth” Jesus-babble doesn’t apply when priests go to court.

Of course, it adds just another layer of documentation to the fact that St. Dysfunction is one seriously toxic church, just as Bob Malm is toxic. Neither Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow or Bob Malm realize that the more they try to bully their way to an illusory legal victory, the more they simply demonstrate that there’s nothing even remotely Christian about the parish. And just in time for Founders Day, the fall pledge drive, and the Big Ask, aka funds to get the HVAC on in the building.

And while you’re at it, enjoy a good laugh at Jeff’s “praecipe.” Apparently, Jeff doesn’t realize that a praecipe is directed at the clerk of courts and requests a ministerial action, like adding something to the calendar. Adding a motion is incorrect, may not be seen by the court, and is looked on with disfavor by many courts. (In Fairfax County, for instance, which requires two weeks’ notice if written pleadings are involved, judges take a dim view of attorneys who try to sidestep the requirement of any extra week by adding a brief or motion to their praecipe.) But then, given that Jeff apparently values his services at a rate of more than $2000 an hour, what can one say?
















Sunday, September 16, 2018

See for Yourself: Allegedly 100K of Legal Work, but No Proofreading

You have to love it. Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow claims to have provided almost 100K worth of legal services to St. Dysfunction. But when one reviews his pleadings, inter alia, he either accused his client of harassing me, or he didn’t bother to proofread his work. That’s pretty amazing.

But then, if you’re good with lying to the court, why worry about something so trivial as proofreading your own work?




Friday, September 14, 2018

Still More Threats and Defamation from Leslie Malm

Check it out—yet more threats and defamation from Leslie Malm. And still no idea how what it means to conduct oneself as a Christian.

It’s interesting, too: Leslie still hasn’t responded to questions about the lie she told to Dee Parsons, in which she claimed that I had admitted in open court that Mom’s blog is mine. Dee called her on it, and Leslie went silent. That’s telling.

And nowhere in her calculus do we see any explanation for the 120 pledge units the parish has lost, or the 17 percent decline in church attendance. 

Questionable veracity — just an ordinary part of the game on Planet Malm.




Wednesday, September 12, 2018

More Evidence of Sloppy Work by Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow

A law school professor of mine once said, “I don’t advise acting like an asshole. But if you’re going to go that route, make sure your work is absolutely flawless.” Good advice, and apparently not advice that Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow follows.

Specifically, in reviewing Jeff’s previous filings, he had the time for motions court wrong. This is the sort of thing that’s both easy to check, and worth taking the time to check. And with all the associates Jeff has deployed in this matter, you’d think someone would take the time to fact check and proofread his court filings. Or put in other terms, getting this sort of fact wrong hardly engenders credibility.

But then, given Jeff’s other missteps in this litigation, including his lack of common sense in pursuing a non-meritorious claim, hardly surprising.

Who knows? Maybe Jeff attended Sugarland University School of Law.

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Credibility and St. Dysfunction: Trouble in the Offing?

According to a recent Gallup poll, less than half of all Americans believe that clergy are honest and have high ethical standards. That number has dropped steadily since its 1985 height of 67 percent, and all evidence suggests that the number continues to decline.

What does that mean for Grace Episcopal, aka St. Dysfunction? The short answer, I think, is that the future is looking grim for the church. In addition, both Jeff Chiow and Bob Malm are likely to face ongoing damage to their personal and professional reputations over their conduct in this dispute.

At its most basic, there is the issue of Bob’s facially obvious effort to turn mere use of words into threats. For example, even a non-lawyer is quick to understand that mere use of the phrase “psychological torture” in reference to Bob’s campaign of shunning is not a threat. Bob then adds insult to injury by trying to bolster his argument with irrelevant and ludicrous assertions, like the notion that protesting in cold weather somehow suggests mental illness or a threat. (Bob obviously has never been to a protest outside the White House.)

Moreover, Bob’s lack of credibility also is reflected in his dealings with the Grace Church vestry, including his claim that Mike and I left on our own. This falsehood is incorporated into the vestry talking points that were disseminated by the current vestry. Thus, Bob asks parish leaders to participate in disseminating his statements of questionable veracity.

That in turn begs the issue: What kind of priest tries to shove out a parishioner who, like Mike, was received into The Episcopal Church just 16 months earlier? There is no answer to this question that reflects positively on Bob Malm, on the vestry, or on the parish. Ditto for Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s support for Bob’s actions.

Then we get the issue of Jeff Chiow’s ad hominem attacks, inflammatory rhetoric, and fabrications in his pleadings, including falsely telling the Alexandria Circuit Court that I have violated the protective order. Even if the various disciplinary boards involved in Jeff’s case give him a pass, he faces a lifetime of credibility issues. Moreover, his decision to try to sidestep Pennsylvania law and subpoena my mother, all while noisily asserting that his subpoena comports with the Interstate Depositions and Discovery Act’s provisions, may have lasting consequences for his legal career. I for one would be very uncomfortable retaining an attorney who, as here, appears to play fast and loose with the truth, and who uses the legal system to pursue what appears to some as a personal vendetta.

Jeff’s situation is what is known in chess as a double fork, in which no matter what direction you move, something bad happens. If Jeff claims, for example, that he didn’t realize that I was admitted to practice law, that begs the question: Why didn’t he take the time to do his homework before making such a claim? If, on the other hand, he claims he wasn’t recklessly indifferent to the truth or falsity of his pleadings and did, in fact, conduct due diligence, then one is left to ask whether Jeff intentionally tried to deceive the court. And in either case, he put his signature on legal pleadings that were simply untrue. No matter how you parse it, hardly a recipe for short- or long-term success.

The larger issue, of course, is that both Jeff and Bob have acted with the full blessing of the vestry and the church. As a result, the entire organization now faces the long-term challenge of having to explain to both current and potential future members how and why:
  1. It came to engage in a semi-formal campaign of shunning at Bob Malm’s direction
  2. Jeff Chiow came to support Bob Malm’s efforts to exclude Christians from the church
  3. Bob Malm, speaking through Jeff, declined my 2015 offer to settle the dispute for nothing more than Bob’s written assurances that he would leave us alone
  4. Bob Malm felt it appropriate to expressly include Mike in this conflict
  5. Bob Malm, Jeff Chiow, and the vestry concluded that hateful, inflammatory language was appropriate in Jeff’s legal pleadings
  6. It was appropriate to subpoena a dying woman, contrary to Pennsylvania law
  7. It was okay to include lies and misrepresentations in court filings, made under oath, including Jeff’s untruthful statement that I have violated the protective order, as well as his falsehoods about my having been admitted to the bar and having served as a police officer.
  8. It became appropriate to refer to church members as terrorists and the conflict as one of “domestic terrorism”
  9. It concluded that filing for a protective order was a legitimate way to shut down criticism
  10. Folks thought it would be helpful to the church over time to have the rector going around telling people that I am “unbalanced” and “dysfunctional”
  11. People thought the church would be successful with the rector publicly telling people that a former member is a terrorist
  12. Not a single person in the church, the diocese, or Rogers, Joseph O’Donnell appears to have spoken up and said, “Hold on here. This is neither ethical, nor helpful.”
No matter how you parse it, this is a case of the Emperor having no clothes. The truth, which is that Grace Church is dysfunctional and toxic, has been laid bare for all the world to see, and there’s no going back now. To make matters worse, Jeff has painted himself and the church into a corner. Any action that would rectify the situation at this juncture necessarily involves publicly admitting to really outrageous and inappropriate behavior on the part of the church and the rector.

By the way, there’s an excellent article on the long-term importance of integrity for lawyers, and its implications for one’s career, at https://www.bcgsearch.com/article/60384/Credibility-and-your-legal-career/

A screen cap of the article follows.





Amusing Post Over at Fairfax Underground

As a general rule, I don’t repost stuff from blogs I don’t know, primarily because I’m a belt-and-suspenders kinda guy and there are too many unknowns in doing so.

But this recent post to Fairfax Underground is just too amusing to pass up. So, I’m spending the afternoon in Sugarland Texas and posting this, even if the notion of Bob Malm in my bedroom makes me queasy.