Saturday, June 8, 2019
Breaking news! More media coverage of Dysfunctional Bob, Sugarland Chiow, and the #fakechristians crowd at Grace Episcopal.
Coming July 4 weekend, to a media outlet near you!
Thursday, June 6, 2019
In a few weeks, my dispute with Bob Malm will be four years old. Happy birthday, dear dispute.
So, this seems like the perfect time to extend this invitation and challenge. Here goes.
Bob likes to claim that I’m engaging in “online/outdoor defamation/slander.” (Guess that’s better than the indoor variant.)
While Bob, like most at Grace Episcopal, has no idea what defamation and slander are, this also is part of the standard abusive clergy back of tricks. Engage in smear campaigns, claim your critics are defaming you, and more. You know the drill.
That said, I’m calling folks out on this. Talk’s cheap, and Bob is a master of substance-free communication. Pretty words, lots of smiles and hugs, sounds good, but nothing to it. It’s now time for Dysfunctional Bob, Sugarland Chiow, and the rest of the fake Christian crowd at Grace to put their money where their mouths are and sue me.
You argue that you’re being defamed. Go to court and prove it. That’s right. Time to man up and file suit. Go for it.
And while you’re trying, see how fast I prove that you repeatedly lied under oath. See how quickly I prove that NO member of my family, or anyone claiming to be them, repeatedly made appointments with you and cancelled. See how fast I show that you committed perjury. See how fast I show you even lied to your own church, telling members that Mike and I left on our own.
Bob Malm has a big mouth, and he likes to yell and bully, especially if he thinks his target won’t fight back. But I predict he doesn’t have the spine to put his money where his mouth is and prove his assertions.
Oh, and by the way: This whole conflict shows just how stupid Bob Malm really is. There’s no fact pattern out there in which he and Grace Church win. None. And every time he has tried to force me to back down, he’s just cemented my resolve.
So, time to put for Dysfunctional Bob and Sugarland Chiow to put on their big girl panties and belly up to the bar.
Wednesday, April 3, 2019
One of the most troubling things about this case is Episcopal Church attorney Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s false statements of fact to the courts. For those who may be unfamiliar with the details of my case, Jeff Chiow, a former vestry member of Grace Church, repeatedly made false statements in his pleadings, including false statements of fact. These include:
- That I had never practiced law.
- That I never served as a police officer.
- That I violated the existing court order.
While Jeff and his clients (Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal Church) may argue that they did not intend to mislead the courts, the first two are statements of fact. As such, it is not sufficient to simply say, “Well, my client told me.” There is an affirmative duty to conduct reasonable independent inquiry. In this regard, even a cursory review of publicly available data would have made clear that these statements were fabrications,.
Apropos the third claim, violating the court’s order, nothing in the law, the facts, or Sugarland’s pleadings themselves supports this conclusion. Intentionally misleading the court in this matter is a serious violation of an attorney’s ethical obligations as an officer of the court.
As one attorney and author states, “zealous advocacy is not synonymous with recklessness or indifference.” Meaning one cannot simply toss assertions out there and hope that something sticks, as Jeff Chiow has done.
Of course, in doing so, Jeff is doing so as the church’s representative, so as an organization, Grace Church is equally culpable.
Read the full article, published in the New York Law Journal, at https://www.stroock.com/siteFiles/Publications/NewYorkLawJournal.pdf.
Wednesday, March 6, 2019
Subtitle for this post: Grace Episcopal welcomes pedophiles and felons, but not bloggers.
One of the issues that Bob has created for both the church and the school is concern among parents about safety. With that in mind, let’s explore the issue, while recognizing that safety includes both physical safety and spiritual/emotional safety.
In the realm of physical safety, Bob likes to stir up fears about outsiders; his wife, Leslie, allegedly has told third parties that teachers at the school fear I will come in and “shoot up the place.” Leaving aside the fact that I am polygraphed, have a full background check that goes back much, much further than a federal security clearance, and have successfully passed the police psychological exam (all of which is a long way of saying that Bob is full of bullcrud), the reality is that children are most often injured or abused by people they know.
With that in mind, let’s look at who’s welcome at Grace Church. This includes the parish pedophile, who as discussed before both has boundary issues with children, as well as 24/7 access to the entire building, thus providing ample opportunities to be alone with a child.
But the bad news doesn’t stop there. Another parishioner committed felony theft, using keys belonging to a family member to steal multiple laptops. Yet Bob Malm declined to press charges, and to my knowledge did not inform the vestry that a felony theft had occurred. And yet that person has been alone in the building on multiple occasions since the theft.
Given these issues, were I a parent I’d have some real concerns, both about physical safety and about the security of personal belongings. Persons willing to engage in felony theft are, by definition, much more likely than the population at large to commit a variety of serious crimes. And the pedophile already has engaged in inappropriate behavior towards children; there are additional warning signs that I am not at liberty to share here.
To my mind, the most risky aspect of Grace Church and school is spiritual and emotional. Why? Because these can be insiduous, difficult to address, and hard to prevent.
In this space, Bob Malm aka Dysfunctional Bob is not a good instructor for the school’s religion courses, as his content is not age appropriate. This lack of calibration is troubling, for it suggests Bob may also not fully recognize that, to thrive, children need to be in a safe, emotionally healthy environment.
In that regard, I have personally seen Bob’s tantrums, as well as his petty machinations and smear campaigns. Of course, the larger issue is what values children learn when they see a priest, a perceived authority figure, who:
- Lies to others.
- Engages in smear campaigns.
- Manipulates people.
- Commits perjury.
- Bullies innocent family members (think Mike)
- Tries to subpoena a dying parent in an effort to bully me.
- Uses an attorney, Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow, who takes personal vendettas into the courtroom and deploys unprofessional, inflammatory rhetoric.
In short, anything other than the most superficial contact with Dysfunctional Bob may well be unhealthy for children, and indeed the miasma Bob exudes may even touch children indirectly, as parishioners take their cues from Bob.
So next time Bob starts bloviating about fences, panic buttons, rekeying locks, and changing codes on alarm systems, my message to parents is this:
You should be far more concerned about the security risks inherent in welcoming felons and pedophiles to the building, and giving them 24/7 access to the facilities, than to Bob’s ludicrous claims that he’s been threatened. And don’t minimize the unseen risks to children of Bob’s repeated ethics and boundary issues. If nothing else, Bob’s conduct carries with it an important message and damaging message, which is that bullying is okay.
Saturday, December 22, 2018
With recent stock market activity showing some striking similarities to the market crash of 1987, and the double whammy of a
possible partial shut-down of the federal government, Grace Episcopal Church may well enter 2019 in dire financial condition.
As I stated in previous posts, when factoring in depreciation and amortization, Grace has been running an annual deficit for many, many years. That trend, together with several related factors, has spelled a perfect storm in the making for quite some time. These factors include:
- An aging parish population.
- A costly physical plant.
- A wildly overpaid rector who often appears to place his own perceived self-interest ahead of the church.
- Decades of slipshod governance.
- Facially faulty financial reports.
- A rubber-stamp vestry largely controlled by Bob Malm.
- A refusal to save for the future.
- A culture that of denial and avoidance that has allowed the church to avoid dealing with these pressing issues for much of Bob’s tenure as rector.
- American culture, in which church membership is no longer normative, and where young people increasingly oppose organized religion.
- The hypocrisy of church hierarchies, including that of the Roman Church, and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia.
Now, with the stock market appearing poised to tank, the church faces several challenges:
- Year-end gifts of appreciated stock likely will be reduced.
- Parishioners on fixed incomes will find it difficult to maintain current pledging levels.
- Families directly or indirectly dependent on the federal government will face financial constraints.
- Investments, including the Grace Trust, which is heavily invested in the stock market, will lose value, thus reducing church revenue.
- Banks that might otherwise be willing to lend to the church will seek to reduce risk in the event of another major recession.
All this, of course, ties into the loss of public confidence caused by Dysfunctional Bob and Sugarland Chiow’s rather disastrous foray into court, continued misconduct and conflict within the parish, the departure of Fanny Belanger, the fact that Dysfunctional Bob will retire in the not distant future, and Bob Malm’s smear campaign against members of his own parish.
Grace church surely is poised for big problems over the next few years.